Warning signs your child might be a bully. They might be a bully if following apply
1. Does your child feel insecure?
2. Does he feel bad about his body or about his sports ability or academic skills?
3. Does he wish he had more friends?
Sometimes a child bullies because she is or was bullied herself: by an older sibling or by her parents. Even if your child is not (yet) a bully it is important to take a look at your family.
4. Do you allow your children to bully each other?
5. Do you use your power as an adult to bully your kids into doing what you want-be honest with yourself?
6. Do or did you or your child’s other parent bully each other through a divorce?
7. Role-modeling bullying behavior in other situations will also put your child at risk for becoming a bully. For example:
Do you yell at a server in a restaurant if you’re unhappy with your meal?
Do you refuse to listen to your friend’s point of view when you’re having an argument?
Will you scream at the supermarket checkout person if a mistake is made?
If you suspect your child is bully find out. Don't use corporal punishment, or yell at the child. Here are five steps to help stop your child from being a bully
1. Talk to her about role-reversal: “how would it feel if you were the one being bullied?” This is a conversation you may need to have more than once.
2. Require him to apologize to the child he bullied-either verbally, in a letter (or sometimes both).
3. Continue to follow-up to make sure that the bullying has stopped. This means staying in touch with the school or with the bullied child’s parent. This is the hardest, but most important part. It shows your child that you take his behavior seriously and that bullying is unacceptable in your family.
4. Tell your child that if the bullying continues, there will be a serious consequence-mean it, and follow through!
5. If your child doesn’t stop bullying, speak to a child psychologist or other counselor who specializes in helping children to manage their behavior and feelings. It is critical to help your child now. Teen and adult bullying is much more serious and much harder to stop(1).
Reseachers have said "The roles that adults and particularly peer bystanders choose to take are critical to the eventual discouragement or encouragement of bullying and harassment. The choice of whether or not to take an active role in stopping the abuse is an obvious factor, and adults as well as youth need to be taught when, where, and how to intervene appropriately"(2 ).
Studies has shown some teachers either tolerate or contribute to bullying, even though the teacher is present during the bullying. Many times the teacher may not be aware of the bullying. It could be concluded that teachers may not know how to identify bullying behavior. this can be minimized if the teacher if the teacher observes the students in different settings (3 ).
Teachers should pay attention to students with poor social skills and few friend children who are smaller or who act or look unlike other students. They could be targets of bullies.
these are signs of a bullied child
* A child's grades begin to fall.
* A child shows a decrease in interest for school in general.
* A child feigns illness, such as frequent headaches or stomachaches.
* A child who chooses ubiquitous routes home may be hiding the fact that he or she is a victim of a bully.
* A child claims to have lost books, money, or other belongings without a good explanation.
* A child is caught stealing or asking for extra money.
* A child has unexplained injuries, bruises, or torn clothing; bullying may be the cause for any or all of these indicators.
The AMA warned that bullying can cause as much damage to a child as child abuse.
These are four principles teachers can practice to prevent bullying.
1. Provide warm, positive interest and involvement from adults.
2. Provide consistent application of nonpunitive, nonphysical sanctions for unacceptable behavior or violations of rules.
3. Establish firm limits on unacceptable behavior.
4. Act as authorities and role models.
Victims should be helped in dealing with the teasing so they can neutralize the bully. Teachers should act as role models and encourage the children to make light of the teasing by statements like. * So what?
* Can't you think of anything else to say?
* Tell me when you get to the funny part.
* And your point is?(4 ).
One workplace even uses a theater group to demonstration to show how miscommunications can led to work place aggression. Kevin Kelloway, PhD, a psychologist at St. Mary's University in Canada who researches work place aggression says "The way you limit [bullying] behavior is not by developing an exhaustive list of things you can't do, but by taking a more positive approach, saying 'This is the way we treat other people here,'" (5 ).